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This website is a Christian website dedicated to singles (and teens) who struggle with porn. When I say single, I mean from the Christian perspective that you are to remain a virgin or abstinent until your wedding night. If you are Christian single and you are determined to be obedient (See I Corinthians 6:18, 7:2) and wait until your wedding night then you are fighting a different monster than a married who has sex several times a month or another unmarried who has sex outside of marriage.In the Christian community most of the people who address the topic are married and attack the topic from their perspective. Unfortunately porn is a fundamentally different sin for married and single people so much of the advice given is either useless or counterproductive for singles.
We live in a day and age where sexual temptation is everywhere, but in this day and age of sexual temptation I do not think the Christian community has realized one of the realities about sexual temptation. Unmarried people who are practicing abstinence until marriage face several types of sexual temptation that married people do not. Married people face several types of sexual temptation that Unmarried people do not. At times good advice for married people that helps them overcome their temptation is terrible advice for unmarried and allows our temptation to overcome us. Why? Because we are facing different temptations. This website’s focus is to help the unmarried with sexual temptation, especially in the temptations we face that married people do not. Furthermore married and unmarried people generally have different goals for overcoming porn addiction. Married people generally look to get rid of porn to get back to a right relationship with their wife. Singles are generally looking to deal with porn so that the depression, desperation, and anxiety that comes with porn will go away. Generally the married people struggling with porn can get counseling from someone who fully understands how the married couple feels, whereas the singles generally get counseling from someone who does not remember being single, abstinent or a virgin. I struggled with porn for more than a decade, by God’s grace I learned what the scripture tells singles they need to do to get out of porn. And it has several aspects that are very different than what it tells married people to do to get out of this sin. God has provided a way out of porn for singles. I am proof of that! I am not going to tell you how wrong porn is. You already know that that is why you are here. This website is set up to give you the Biblical tools and understanding you need to overcome your addiction. That said perhaps you are a councilor, pastor, or accountability partner for a young person struggling with this sin. After I confessed my sin to my pastor it took him 3 months to figure out what not to say. I often found him saying things that he often advised the married me to do that drew me back to pornography. It took him 3 months to figure out that I a single Christian trying to live in obedience need to deal with this sin differently than the marrieds. Very good advice for them was very bad advice for me. The issue for councilors, pastors, and accountability partners who are married is that singles, especially virgins who are addicted to pornography cannot view sex the same way you do, so in part this website is made so that you do not have to spend 3 months figuring out how to council your singles/teens on this issue. |